Pamela Ann Monette

Pamela Ann Monette (née Erickson) was a remarkable woman whose beauty, kindness, and love touched everyone who knew her. As a mother, sister, daughter, spouse, partner, and friend, she created lasting bonds and was a light in the lives of all who crossed her path. Her passing leaves an irreplaceable void, but we take comfort in knowing that those who preceded her now have the joy of welcoming her back. 

Pamela was born on Aug. 22, 1949, in Rhinelander, where she lived most of her life. She passed away peacefully in her sleep on Oct. 27, 2024, in Benson, Ariz., at the age of 75.

Pam is survived by her two sons, Bryan Barber of Madison, and Kyle (Lydia) Barber of Clifton, Colorado; her stepdaughter, Dawn (Ted) Hettinga of Tomahawk; her life partner of 12 years, David McEwan; two brothers, Eric (Judy Haeger) Erickson of Montreal, Wis., and Donald (Lori) Erickson of Schofield; and her beloved grandson, Hieronymus Barber. She was preceded in death by her husband, Gerald Monette; her parents, Arvid and Nannette Erickson; and her sister, Jennifer Erickson.

One of Pam’s greatest joys in recent years was meeting her grandson, Hieronymus (Hal), with whom she spent a treasured week just days before her passing, sharing stories of when her sons were young. Her love for him, and for her family, was evident to the very end.

Pam spent much of her professional life working at M & I Bank and the Insurance Center in Rhinelander, where her kindness and dedication had a lasting impact on all who knew her. In retirement, Pam embraced her love of travel, exploring Florida and beyond with her sister and husband, and later touring the United States with her partner, David. Together, they found a vibrant community and new friends in Pato Blanco Lakes RV park; Benson, Ariz., where her joyful spirit made a lasting impact.

A gifted quilter, Pam’s creations were intricate, beautiful, and full of heart. She loved gifting her quilts unexpectedly to family and friends, offering warmth and comfort with every stitch that reflected her heart.

She was also the life of any party, effortlessly making everyone feel seen and valued. Her magnetic personality and genuine interest in others made her a beloved figure, and she will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing her.

A lifelong believer, Pam found strength in her faith, and we take solace knowing she is now reunited with her loved ones. Though her time with us was too short, her spirit and legacy will live on in the countless lives she touched as well as her children and grandchild.

Christmas was always a special time for Pam. If you knew her — or even if you didn’t — this holiday season, take a moment to hold your loved ones close. Life is precious, and you never know when it might be the last time to express how much they mean to you. In Pam’s memory, raise a glass of Irish Cream, and celebrate love and don’t miss the chance to say “I Love You.”